Happy New Year!


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Every time I even think about a blog post my mind goes blank.  I wish it would go blank where other things are concerned.

I am now 6 1/2 weeks post-op… corrected for 2 weeks of antibiotics I’m somewhere around the 5 week mark since that slows down the healing process.  I thought I would feel great by now and maybe I would feel better had I not had 2 infections.

What is bothering me the most though is returning to work tomorrow.  After everything that has happened with the @** over the last 6 weeks I don’t want to see him and I have no motivation to even be there.  Secondly, I don’t know if I will have the stamina to be there for 8 hours tomorrow.  Those are weighing so heavily on my mind.

I have applied for a number of jobs and have an interview on Wednesday morning.  For this interview I am information gathering for sure.  I’m hoping that there will be an abundance of postings suited for me and/or something I have already applied for works out.

As for 2017, well, I say good riddance!  It brought me so much grief that I’m still working through it all.  2018 is a clean slate for all of us.  I have been reading a book titled Fresh Start.  It talks about visualizing what it is you want.

I have been visualizing myself in a couple of roles because I want to keep my options open!  First, I visualize myself in a different office where my knowledge and abilities are appreciated and it’s a relaxed environment, much like I had.  Second, is visualizing myself working at home on writing.  All kinds of writing… new novel, articles, etc. And they pay the bills!

Most of us don’t like not knowing what’s coming at us and I am very much one of those people.  Sure some people wake up being happy for the day but I want to know what’s around that corner.  I need to know that there’s something else out there that will continue paying the bills for me.

I think I speak for most people when I say that all we want to be is happy in whatever it is we are doing.  Mark Twain said “Find a job you enjoy doing, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”  I had that before my boss retired.  It’s time to find that again!

Happy New Year to all and may 2018 bring us joy and wonder!


Going on Four Weeks


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Many days have passed and I will be four weeks post-op on Thursday.

However I have more pain and discomfort than I thought I would at this point and I tire very easily and with little effort.  The other day I wrapped four gifts and had to go sit down! This is making it incredibly difficult to prepare for Christmas.

I am also feeling very depressed because of those feelings and today I feel very harassed.  I feel like everyone is pressuring me suddenly to go back to work and go back full time starting next week!  Now, I can’t do! I know I have to cover for the boss who is on vacation but I can’t do 28 hours in a week.  I’m not supposed to be doing any time and getting people to understand that is like trying to get the kitten to sit and stay!  I’m not even supposed to drive and I haven’t been at all.  I have relied on others to give me a ride.  I understand the rationale behind that which is why I’m trying to hold off as long as possible.

In fact, I’m very likely going to be sending my regrets to my former boss with regards to dinner tomorrow night because by 4:30 in the afternoon I’m beat and even short spans of social interaction wear me out very quickly.  I guess what’s most frustrating is people’s lack of ability to understand.  I know not everyone can relate.

In other news…

  1. I was supposed to have an interview this morning that was cancelled because they needed someone immediately… another reason to feel depressed today after I had felt so hopeful yesterday.  I don’t know what else to do and am feeling pretty disheartened right now.
  2. This weekend–Friday, Saturday and Sunday–and next–Friday and Saturday–all of my Kindle books are FREE!
  3. Writer’s Block still plagues me.  I’d like to say something came of that idea I had but, unfortunately, no.  At least not right now.

I’d love to have the ability to re-evaluate but I just feel like I hit a wall every way I turn.  I feel like road blocks line my path.

I think I’ll go back and do what I do best… and that is to rest!

Two weeks…


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I can’t believe it has been two weeks since my surgery!

I have been wanting to write a post and have even had a few false starts… however, my concentration hasn’t returned yet so I end up giving up.

So here I am trying again.

Okay, so first, the surgery… it went as well as expected according to the surgeon.  However, as significant amount of endometriosis was discovered and I lost an ovary to this.  I am on the mend but much more slowly than I had anticipated.  I still have pain in my tummy and at the incision.  I still have a fair number of bruises, some are fading, some don’t seem like they’ll ever budge!  The pain causes more fatigue and I’m finding myself napping, or attempting to, in the afternoons.  Lastly, as I already mentioned, my concentration has been impaired.  I’m sure, in time, this will return to normal but I need to give it time.

So I have been doing puzzles–crosswords, word searches and fill-ins–and watching a ton of Christmas movies.  So much so that I have actually come up with an idea of my own and put pen to paper with it this morning.  The trouble with that is the kitten who keeps trying to either help or steal my pen!

I’m not sure which it is.  Between him and my lack of focus it’s going to be hard enough to try to get the ideas from brain to page.

There is much going on outside my recovery, most of which is having a negative impact on my recovery.  I won’t get into that right now but let’s just say that I am definitely back in the hunt for a new job.

I’m going to end it here before the focus cuts out and I start to ramble!  I hope it gets easier to focus and write sooner than later.

As always, I will keep you posted.

The Finish Line


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That’s the title for tomorrow!

As I go through my day today, the last with crazy cells in my body, I keep picturing tomorrow as the finish line.  That dawned on me yesterday as I was talking to patients for the last time before my day was done that it really is a finish line of sorts.  I have spent just shy of a year wondering, worrying, going from procedure to consult with, seemingly, no answers.  “Just one more procedure”.

Of course I lost my grandmother and my boss of 11 years in the first six months of that year and I can’t say whether that made a difference to this or not but here I am.

Tomorrow by this time, if everything goes on time and I respond the way I should, I should be settled in my room.  I will have a fresh 12″ incision in my lower abdomen but the there will be no further threat from those bad cells.

And then I will pause in order to recover.  I will rest, I will read, I will write and address Christmas cards.  I will have others do all the things that need doing… laundry, cooking, dishes, vacuuming, etc… and I will heal and I will get stronger.  Then I will move onto the starting gate… the start of, well, I don’t know.

I have to try to negotiate that.  Stress, anxiety, worrying and not-great test results have become all I know.  Where do I go from here?  I don’t know.  What do I want to do?  I want to get back to my writing.  I want to feel that pleasure of putting words on the page and planning story arcs and creating characters and letting them live in my mind and tell the story while I become the mode of telling that story.  Just writing about that doesn’t even bring me much pleasure right now.  There’s a twinge.

Perhaps this will be the time for starting that job search all over again.

Well, no matter what the New Year brings, I hope that it is positive and filled with magic and wonder… exactly what this year has not had!

I will post an update as soon as I feel up to it.

Apple Cider & Christmas Music


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I know, many of you think it’s too early for Christmas music and I usually try to keep it off until after Remembrance Day but this year everything is different!

I am six sleeps away from my surgery and I feel like I have a million things to do.  I also have a kitten who is ruining Christmas for me (and if anyone would like him he’s yours!) because he broke my tree!  I put it up last week to see what he would do with an empty tree before I put decorations on it.  It was up Friday, Saturday and Sunday before I came home for lunch Monday to find out that he had obviously attempted to lay on the bottom branches and broke them.  I cried. I cried my heart out!

It has been a tough week trying to figure out what to do.  I know that Christmas isn’t in the tree and decorations or the gifts under the tree but in the Nativity that I set up on Wednesday.  I have also never gone a single Christmas without a tree up.  After losing grandma this year, it will be incredibly difficult to not have my tree.  With surgery this year it will be very difficult too because I was looking forward to coming home from the hospital next week and having it there.  But I don’t know what my options are… I said I could put it in my room!  It’s a thought since I will be spending a fair bit of time there for a week or two!

Anyway, my bag is getting full.  I bought a new pair of slippers as well as a Christmas pillow to help support my incision while doing those wonderful deep breathing & coughing exercises at the hospital as well as sitting up, rolling over, probably getting into and out of the car.  And then it will make a great decoration.  It says “Dear Santa, I am good at being naughty… I think that should count”  I’m thinking the hospital staff will love it!

Aside from that, I’m not spending as much time on NaNo as I’d hoped.  Though I’m grateful for everything my mom has done for me to help me “nest” my time has been severely compromised the last several weeks too.  That is not helping my “blues” and then last evening it snowed so my emotions are all over the place.

So I have put a mix of Wild Orange, Ginger and Cinnamon into the diffuser which, combined, smells like Apple Cider and I’m listening to my Canadian Tenors Christmas CD (I know, who listens to CDs anymore? I do!).  Tonight is the symphony which should be very good because it was a year and a half ago when the Dancin’ Through the Decades was done.

Anyway, this will likely be the last post before my surgery since I’m managing bi-weekly posts, at best, these days.  I will try to get on next weekend, whenever I get home, and see if I can post an update.  It may be incredibly short!

So until then and wish me luck!



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Well November 16th it is!

How do I feel?  Well, completely scatter-brained.  I am trying to get so much done that I’m flitting from one thing to the next.

I am going to decorate for Christmas on November 11/12 (so Remembrance Day will have to forgive me) but I also need to work on Christmas cards and shopping!  So I’ve been madly trying to figure out what I can get for people, at least the initial gifts and then I can people to pick things up for me here and there or I can order them online.  I have even written my Christmas letter… there may be a few minor changes but it’s ready to print as soon as I get some paper.

Then on Friday I got a call… I have to go to the pre-surgical clinic at the hospital.  Yes, because three weeks ago I was agitated about my upcoming appointment with the specialist but life was carrying on and now I feel like I’m trying to squash a six-week span of time into two and a half weeks!!  Now I have to add a 1-2 hour appointment to the mix!  I guess they wouldn’t understand that.

It’s because I feel so scatter-brained that I can’t seem to focus on any one thing for any length of time because some other thought is creeping into my brain.  It’s that “so many things, so little time” adage.

Of course I’m also supposed to be starting NaNoWriMo on Wednesday.  I’m not so sure I’m going to be able to squeeze in 1,667 words a day.  I will also end up losing at least a few days.  The laptop is going to the hospital with me though if it’s going to be two nights.  He said two days and surgery is at 9:00 a.m. so getting kicked out late in the afternoon on Friday works for me!  If all I’m going to do is sleep there and then get up and get kicked out before 10:00 what’s the point?  I could be at home, in MY environment, in MY bed and be more comfortable and rest better.  That’s what health-care is all about… or at least it is in family practice!

So I’m going to carry on in my scatter-brained ways and see what else I can manage to get done in the sporadic amounts of time I have available to do so… or go clean out the fridge!



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As you know, I saw the specialist on Wednesday morning.  The specialist who still will not acknowledge the fact that there were malignant cells in what he removed in March.  He went over everything, bypassed my one concern and then said he wanted to wait until February and do yet another of the biopsy procedures.

That’s when I said ‘stop’.  I wanted to discuss surgery as an option.  I have not, up until now, divulged the cancer I had but will now because it’s much easier to tell the story… cervical.  So I asked about a hysterectomy because I’m in my 40s.  Not having any more babies and explained that my anxiety is out of this world and I can’t keep going from procedure to consult to procedure to consult with no real end in site and no answers.

And then what?  When HE determines that everything is okay I spend every year wondering if there are going to be bad cells turning up again?

It’s not worth it.  My family doctor had asked me why they just wouldn’t do the hysterectomy based on those first biopsy results and I explained that the specialist merely told me “we weren’t there yet”.  Well, because of my anxiety, I win… finally!

So, my message to all of you is to keep on pushing when it comes to your health.  Who knows where else cells are hiding!  So on November 16th, that’s where I will be.

Remember my asking when I would have time to read those writing magazines I bought?  Well, here it is!  Except that I did manage to read through The Writer which was very good and left me feeling good about my self-publishing!

I’m sure that by the middle of November there will be new ones out for me to get and read.  It’s also NaNoWriMo so it’ll be interesting to see if I’ll be able to sit and write!

One thing is for certain, there will be a LONG list of things I won’t be able to do and my daughter will HAVE TO step up and do a lot of it!  Laundry, vacuuming, getting the garbage out, etc.  I have a really long list of things I need to do in a month as well.  I’m even hoping to be able to get back to work part-time after two weeks… but the boss is on vacation starting December 14th so I could, essentially, be back off for that time.  We’ll see… it’s unfortunate that I have no idea how I will feel.

I will, of course, be posting between now and then, as usual!  If you haven’t signed up for NaNo yet make that happen!  Take the challenge! Write 50,000 words in 30 days!  You can do it!

Happy Thanksgiving


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Work is done for the week and I’m finally free for a long weekend… yet I keep asking myself what it is I have to be thankful for.  I remind myself of family, friends, and my job (though challenging).  But I find it incredibly difficult to appreciate those things when there is so much turmoil in my head.

It’s now five days to my follow-up appointment with the specialist.  Five more days until I have more answers.  What will I face going forward?  That has to be the only question I can’t answer.

So what will I do for this long weekend?

Enjoy the time both with family and away.

And, hopefully, continue writing; continue adding on to the 5500 I have managed to write, most of which was written on Wednesday.

I would also love the opportunity to be able to sit and read some of the writing magazines I bought, what? Two weeks ago?  I’ve opened one of them.

Okay, so as I wrote this, I was watching the end of a Netflix movie and it just ended.  The credits are still rolling and, oh my!  HUGE disappointment in the ending!  It didn’t settle anything!  So the entire story was basically pointless!  No happy ending, just stupid and disappointing!

How can an author have an ending like that… yes, it was based on a book!  As a romance author it’s even more disappointing!  There was no closure. Boy meets girl, things go along slowly, there’s the average amount of conflict and then there is the point where they end having to part ways for some reason but then that’s it!  There’s no happily ever after.  There’s no knocking on the door with a ring or proposal.

Just a whole list of questions by me, the author!

Maybe I’ll just have to write my own happily ever after ending!

And for starters…


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why did my computer restart yesterday and I was logged out of EVERYTHING?  I’ve had to log back into sites that I haven’t logged into in, well, forever!

Okay, so now that that’s off my chest… it’s hot here!  It has reached 30 degrees the last several days.  I, personally, am loving it because I hate the cold and, frankly, you can’t have everything!

After everything I have gone through this year I think my wanting to be happy is the least I could ask for.  Of course I’m not there yet.  The specialist’s appointment is on October 11th.  Just over 2 weeks away now.

I’ve been trying to write.  I’m working on a “sequel” to a movie that I fell in love with many, many years ago.  Of course I’m changing character names and the year and some of the storyline but it’s one of those movies I found on DVD and still watch almost 30 years later.  It’s one of those movies where you always wonder what happened to them after that night because they’re so young and have their lives ahead of them.

It’s worth a shot anyway.  Maybe it will be one of the many that will remain always and forever on my unpublished shelf but I will have satisfied my curiosity!

The storm at work has not settled either.  I will bring news on that when I have it.

I really do feel like I’m in the eye of a tornado and I just keep swirling around and around sometimes even feeling sick.  Up until just now I always felt I was on that ship that was tossed about in the midst of a hurricane.  Maybe the tornado is a better comparison.  I don’t really know.

Every emotion is jumbled with the next.  Every time I want to move forward, I end up backing up.  Every time I want some peace and quiet the storm gets louder.

I wonder if and when it will ever end.  I have a wedding to go to next Saturday.  That will instill a little hope, I hope.

After that, it’s Oktoberfest here and that always makes me melancholy as well.  I think because I used to be out there.  I used to love going and I haven’t been in such a long, long time.  It’s like everything.  Every good thing seems to come to an end.

My day off…


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and I’m having difficulties writing.  The Sunday after my last procedure was much like this… I just wanted to do nothing!

For me, that’s difficult because when I want to write I can’t find the time.  When I have the time, my brain seems to need the break.

How do I find medium ground?  How do I write when my brain tells me it doesn’t want to?

And it’s not that I don’t have a good idea to write about… I’ve started to write it.  But I get a few sentences down here and a few down there and I just feel like everything has been a string of interruptions again.

My mind, at the moment, is not a help to me!  I do way too much thinking and there’s been a lot going on.  Between my pathology reports and waiting, desperately, for my specialist appointment on October 11, my daughter deciding to not go to school but accepting full-time at work, my own work issues and a multitude of other things that are a basket full of good and bad mixed I’m on overload… definitely!

At some point it would be interesting to write a memoir on all of this but I’m not sure I’d ever get to writing it!

I went to Chapters on Saturday and found 3 new writing magazines as well as a number of journals they have on the topic of writing… one is titled 500 Writing Prompts, there was another there with 300 and then there was one titled Complete The Story which was also awesome.  There was also a journal titled Why I Love You.  All of these are really cool because the first two have the writing prompts or story starters.  The latter asks questions about your relationship, if you’re in one.  On Saturday I bought the magazines and the 500 Writing Prompts.  Today I went back and bought the other two because I am a sucker for these things!

So I have managed to write at least something today!  I can say that I have succeeded!  The day is not over, however, and I’m tired already!